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September 3, 2009 · Leave a Comment

from Mail Online

The wobbly bits that shook the world: The joyous support created by one model’s picture (flabby tummy and all)

By Linda Kelsey

At first glance it’s just the kind of playful picture your boyfriend might snap of you, caught unawares on a lazy Sunday morning. The subject looks glowing, happy, natural, totally at ease with her body and herself.

But something is awry. Something that causes you to do a double-take. Especially given that this photo has just appeared in a glossy magazine. By now, I bet you’ve spotted it. What I am referring to is the small roll of fat around the middle of this 20-year-old model.

It might be a tiny imperfection, but when it was published in the American edition of Glamour magazine, it appeared amid hundreds of pages of adverts and fashion shots in which the models have no blemishes, no frown lines, no wrinkles and certainly no body fat.

Lizzie Miller
Defying convention: Lizzie Miller’s tummy has featured as a story on America’s morning TV programme Today, one of the most-watched shows in the country

So what impact did this little mound of flesh have? Were women disgusted that such an offensive thing should be displayed in public?

Well, even though it was only 3in square and hidden away on page 194, this extraordinary image of a woman with wobbly bits that have not been airbrushed away has sparked a whirlwind of reaction – almost all of it positive.

Hundreds of readers flooded the magazine’s website the moment after the image first appeared, roaring their approval and appreciation with comments like: ‘I love this picture. I was starting to despair of ever seeing real women in magazines and it made me reassess how I look at myself. I have a similar tummy which I hate – but look at her, she’s beautiful.’lizzie-miller

Groundbreaking: Lizzie -who is 5ft 11in and 121/2st – is considered too big to model even plus-size lines

Such was the excitement that Lizzie Miller’s tummy featured as a story on America’s morning TV programme Today, one of the most-watched shows in the country.

Now Glamour is planning a follow-up feature in November’s issue which will include more shots of Miller.

Many of the women who spoke out in support of the image were horrified that professional Lizzie – who is 5ft 11in and 121/2st – is considered too big to model even plus-size lines.

Having been rejected as too big, she said the reaction to her picture proves ‘that the world is hungry to see pictures of normal women’. She’s so right.

What also gives this image such sledgehammer power is that it’s not her breasts or her upper arms or her thighs that draw the eye immediately, but the stomach – the area of every woman’s body that inspires more agonies of self-loathing than any other.

You might be a mother who, however hard you try, simply cannot shift what has cruelly been dubbed the ‘mummy tummy’. Or you might be a young woman who likes a glass of wine and is paying the price with a bulging midriff that just never responds to sit-ups.

Of course, when we dress up to go out we can always rely on one variety or another of Bridget Jones’s big hold-em-in pants. But when we are naked in front of the mirror, there is no disguising a sagging tummy. That’s why it’s so groundbreaking to see a beautiful woman who is a model, even if a curvy one, willing to reveal that she, too, has the same imperfections as the rest of us.

In its way, this picture has as much power to shock as the photograph of actress Jamie Lee Curtis, who seven years ago stripped to her underwear at 43 – without the aid of an airbrush – to prove that even a woman who was once Hollywood’s pin-up girl had matured to have as many lumps and bumps as the rest of us.

When I was editing SHE magazine in the early Nineties, we decided to produce a special ‘Big is Beautiful’ issue. We ran a competition to award a modelling contract to a size 14-plus model, and featured women naked who were far larger than Lizzie Miller. We also ran a picture of the famously fat Dawn French on the cover, showing off her considerable decolletage in a knockout vermilion Vivienne Westwood dress.

That issue of the magazine flew off the shelves to become a complete sell-out, the fastest and highest-selling issue in the six years I was editor.

I made a vow from then on to feature women of all shapes and sizes, and not just in specially flagged-up features. I thought that perhaps in the dozen years since I stopped editing glossy magazines things would have changed.

I hoped that, along with reality television and an appetite for real-life stories of every hue, real-life women with real-life bodies might begin to appear in other glossy magazines and across the media.

But what seems to have happened is quite the reverse. Just look at Sophie Dahl, who arrived like a blazing comet on the fashion scene as a gloriously sensual size 14, but who then began to shrink before our very eyes until she was wafer thin, presumably because she was constantly surrounded by images of female perfection.

And if models and celebrities are not actually perfect, they sure as hell will be by the time their images appear on the newsstands.

As Lizzie Miller herself has said: ‘Pretty much every picture in a magazine or ad is airbrushed . . . I don’t think the public understands how much smoke and mirrors are involved in making women look like that.’

AT A GLANCE…

  • 8 per cent of women have a classic hourglass figure
  • 34in is the typical British woman’s waist. In the Fifties, it was 27.5in
  • 20 per cent of women are pear-shaped

On this last point, I think Lizzie is wrong. Almost everyone these days is aware that photographs are re-touched. Kate Winslet went public about her thighs when they were airbrushed almost to the point of disappearing altogether when she appeared on the cover of GQ.

Keira Knightley’s breasts have suddenly acquired a bigger cup size in the new Chanel ad, and everyone is talking about her breasts as if they own them.

But even if we are aware of what goes on in the world of showbiz and fashion, that doesn’t mean we should be blase about it, or pretend it has nothing to do with us. Being bombarded with perfect images everywhere just makes us despair all the more about our imperfect bodies.

If all those celebrities, with their personal trainers, personal nutritionists, personal stylists, hairdressers and make-up artists, world-class photographers and expert lighting, can’t be seen in pictures without being airbrushed, what might the rest of us need before being deemed acceptable to be seen in public? A full body transplant, perhaps.

The only genuine media breakthrough in recent years as far as the portrayal of real women is concerned has been the Dove Campaign For Real Beauty, featuring women of all ages, shapes and sizes.

Not only did women respond well to it, Unilever was canny enough to make the campaign ongoing. Never mind that it’s all part of its brand-boosting campaign to sell more products, The Dove Self-Esteem Fund, which provides teachers with educational tools to include body awareness seminars within schools, is at least a stab at raising the issues involved.

Even Alexandra Shulman, the editor of British Vogue, entered the fray recently when she criticised prominent fashion designers for encouraging Size Zero models by sending out tiny clothes for fashion shoots.

In an open letter, she wrote: ‘We have now reached the point where many of the sample sizes don’t comfortably fit the established star models.’

She also pointed to the trend for ‘jutting bones and no breasts or hips’ and how such body shapes are a result of the ‘minuscule’ pieces of clothing supplied to the magazine for photo shoots.

Vogue is regularly re-touching photos to make the models look larger, she told the designers. But how much larger, I wonder. From a Size Zero to a size 2 or 4 perhaps? Almost even up to Kate Moss’s ‘gigantic’ proportions? The trouble is, when you’re talking about Vogue, it’s all relative isn’t it? In high-end magazines like that, you will rarely see anything so provocative as this new picture of Lizzie Miller.

Illnesses have taken me to a level of skinniness which horrified me, but as soon as the weight has come back on I’ve begun to feel discontent again with what I’ve got, pinching disconsolately at myself, castigating myself for not watching the levels of cholesterol in my diet or going to the gym.

In the past six months I’ve put on about 12lb and my washboard stomach is now a small mound – rather like Lizzie Miller’s, in fact.

It’s ironic when you think about it that mostly it’s not men who make us paranoid about our bodies – they often don’t even notice imperfections that we agonise over for years. It’s the magazines for sure that chip away at self-esteem.

Perhaps one small picture of lovely Lizzie Miller and her little pot belly – just like the women currently prancing in all their variety around the London stage in Calendar Girls – isn’t going to make much of a difference to this chronic and complex condition of female body dissatisfaction.

But it’s a step in the right direction. Unless we start addressing the issues, unless we wise up to the fact that our body fantasies can never be fulfilled, we’ll continue to be pointlessly unhappy for a long time to come.

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Life Experiences

September 3, 2009 · Leave a Comment

Photography and words by Eryka Clayton

Senses I never new existed were heightened and brought to complete balance. This land is a bounty of natural wonders, opportunities for adventure, historic richness and culture. There is something magical about Jordan that centered me while I embarked on adventures that will be significant for a lifetime.

10 miles from the Dead Sea, nestled 800 feet below sea level and surrounded by the Ma’in Hot Springs that were once used by pilgrims, lays Six Senses Resort and Spa; my home base for the next 6 days. Ecstasy.

Highlights

The Dead Sea is famous for being therapeutic and impossible to sink in- and its reputation is accurate.  Fact: The Dead Sea is evaporating quickly.  Locals are working hard to channel water from the Red Sea to the Dead Sea to slow down the process.  As this will save the Dead Sea, it will also change it so time is of the essence is you want to experience the Dead Sea for all it has to offer.

This would be my above the dead sea

Petra is one of the new 7 wonders of the world!  This Nabatean stone city is dated back to 9BC and still has Bedouin families living there full time.  I was lucking enough to have one of the locals guide me through.  I energetically made it 3 miles into the city, sighting proof of ancient civilizations before calling for a Jordanian taxi (donkey) to take me back to the car.

entering Petra

Six Senses Spa is one of the most unique spas in the world and took me on a full day sensory journey. Each treatment is given in a private spa suite and ends with relaxation time by a private spa hot spring accompanied by dried fruit, nuts, and fresh ginger tea.

Learning my favorite new recipe by At the Springs Executive Sous Chef Hamzeh Abu El Foul:

Kofta

Lamb Chop meat (fresh lamb only)

Pepper

Salt

Garlic

Olive Oil

Parsley

Bell Pepper

*Mix together and serve raw for an appetizer

www.sixsenses.com

www.visitjordan.com

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Life Coach Session ~ This Friday Night

April 4, 2008 · 1 Comment

A Night Out

By: Elliot Kay

 It’s Friday in London, and I’m out with some friends, it is getting late. It is fair to say that the drinks are going down well, and everyone is having a great time. I take a step back and look around me, and think to myself, it’s Friday and what are we actually doing? We are out and we are trying to get approval, whose approval? Any ones! I watched guys talking to guys, girls speaking to girls, guys and girls talking to each other, pretty obvious you might say, but these guys are all strangers dancing to songs they hate and acknowledging people they wouldn’t normally speak to. Everyone is after something… what’s that I wondered??? Is it sex? Is it friendship? Is it love? A good time? Is it all of the above?  

The more I questioned the more I realised the answer is inside us. In life coaching I cover the 6 human needs, but where can I see an example of them in action? Well, to see them in action all you need to do is look around on a Friday night, if it be in London or LA. You will see people looking for love, connection, certainty, verity, significance and contribution. Wow, I stepped back, am I witnessing everything at once? Is that possible? And why am I thinking of this while Green Day are playing? Is it because this girl just put her arms around me and I felt loved for a minute? Was she looking for a connection? So much going on in my head on a Friday night, I think the head ache I am going to have won’t be the fault of drinking too much but all those thoughts going round! 

I stopped myself, slow down boy, and told myself: there is nothing wrong with looking for our 6 human needs, well in fact as people we will do anything to get the them met!, that’s why they are needs. We will leap over our values and compromise our beliefs. For some reason I felt guilty when I look for them and want them all to be fulfilled in a positive way, well, I don’t need to. Is it selfish to want them to be met? No! Is it about thinking about you and putting yourself first? Yeah! And what’s wrong with that? Nothing. How easy was that? Very. I then pick up my drink, take a sip, and feel sad because with all this thinking I missed one of favourite songs, what’s the song? Boulevard of Broken Dreams by Green Day, and then another thought comes into mind…that is for next time!

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Valentine’s Day Gift Guide

February 10, 2008 · Leave a Comment

Dressing up or Dressing Down this V-day, need some romantic “accessories”? Not quite sure how to say “I Love YOU” without actually saying the words? Here are my favs for getting the Valentine’s message across! 

Jack Rabbit’s  Tete-a-tete Clutch is perfect for a night of haute romance!

  Jack The Rabbit 

*Available at American Rag

While you’re at American Rag, try to snag one of these Vintage China Valentine’s inspired knit tshirts.  So Perfect for your daytime dates ;)

 Vintage China 2 

 Jessica Elliot silver rings featuring word’s like Amor, Bella, Lucky, & Inspired. 

   Rings

Jee Vice’s Love Red EVIL Sunglasses, the quintessential accessory for a romantic afternoon.   

Sunglasses

Booty Parlor is spicing it up as always! Suprise your partner with something unsuspectly sexy.

Massage a Trois is the Ultimate Threesome.  This trio from Booty Parlor has your 3 bedroom essentials all in one box.  Don’t Stop Massage Oil (has an intoxicating unisex sent), Thrill Me 2 in 1 Massage Gel and Lubricant, and All Fired Up, the most luxurious warming massage oil!

Melt. A Luxurious Chocolate Fondue made especially for the body.  *Low in fat too. 

Have Fun!

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Just Cause! ~ Darius Goes West

February 5, 2008 · Leave a Comment

Darius Goes West

15 year old Darius Weems is becoming an inspiration to many including myself.  Darius was born with Duchenne Muscular Dystophy, the most severe form of muscular dystrophy.  Children with DMD generally experience a loss of mobility by the age of about 10 leaving them in a wheelchair and by their late teens early 20’s it will eventually take their life.  Darius is the 2nd boy in his family to be born with DMD.  He older brother tragically lost his life to the disease at the age of 19.  After his brother passed, Darius lost his mobility but gained an added urgency to keep his quality of life!

Darius is very blessed with a group of amazing friends, family, and mentors.  A group got together and decided to take Darius on a bit of an adventure….

Darius had never left his home state of Georgia, he had never seen mountains, and he had never even dipped his toes into an ocean.  This group knew that for Darius these experiences would be life changing.  Money was raised to rent a wheelchair accessible RV and pay for them to have the time of their lives going CROSS COUNTRY to LA.  They had a mission to convince MTV’s “Pimp My Ride” to customize Darius’s Wheelchair. 

Along the way to LA the “band of brothers” hit major tourist attractions and raised awareness of DMD by holding press conferences.  Many found inspiration from seeing the joy and dedication of this group.  The entire trip was taped and turned into a documentary, “Darius Goes West“, to raise awareness and funds for DMD.  All profits of the documentary are being donated to Charley’s Fund.  This is really something very different for fund-raising for DMD.  Historically, most funds raised go directly to helping pay for care costs for those family’s that need assistance.  While that is very necessary, that does not help move towards a cure.  Charley’s Fund is a non profit that directs money to research for a cure.  Major biotech and pharmaceutical companies are starting to get involved with the research and hopefully it will lead to bringing DMD therapies to the market. 

 ”Darius Goes West” is a must see documentary! No review I can give would do it justice but I will say that your heart strings will be pulled.  You’re going to laugh, and most likely cry, and I can guarantee that you’ll be glad you did!

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You can buy the DVD by going www.dariusgoeswest.com

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Life Coach Session ~ Your Idol

January 24, 2008 · 2 Comments

American Idol and X factor vs. Your Idol

By Elliot Kay

I find inspiration for my blogs in the strangest places. I was eating my dinner with X – Factor on, it’s the UK version of American Idol, and guess what? I watched Simon Cowell destroy dream after dream, person after person.

I have huge amount of respect for Simon and think that he is a great source of inspiration for anyone and proof that when you dream it you can begin it. He started from delivering letters and has made it to where he is now…

I watched person after person beg with their eyes for his approval. When he said “No” they were broken…Why? At the end of the day it is one person’s opinion, yes he can make things happen, but nothing can replace you making things happen for yourself, your own values and the values you place on yourself.

If Simon, or the likes of Simon in your life, doesn’t like you or see you as their future, do you throw in the towel? There are lots of avenues you can go down to achieve what you want in life, lots and lots and lots, I think you get the point…. Life doesn’t hang on one thing, and if you let it, that one thing will be gone before you know it, and you will end up achieving nothing! Edward Norton was told by every agent he went to see that he wouldn’t make it, did he just say ok? And give up? I think you know the answer to that. Where and what you achieve comes down to how much do you idolise yourself!  Yes that right, waking up and thinking: “I am great! I am Brilliant! Amazing!” What you project is what the world will see, idolise yourself and everything will happen because you will make it happen, because you believe it will!

A quick update…

I have been busy designing and working on my images for my website, which will be launched by the end of the month!!!! Keep you eye out for it!

I also want to say thank you to everyone that has taken their time to leave me comments, keep them coming. We love them!

Till next time,

Elliot

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RIP! ~ Heath Ledger

January 22, 2008 · Leave a Comment

For those of you that have not yet heard I’m very sorry to be the one to break the news… Heath Ledger passed today.  He was scheduled for a massage this afternoon but when the housekeeper let the therapist into his room and they found him unconcious with a bottle of pills beside him. 

 I’m sure more details will be uncovered shortly.  I’ll keep you updated.

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Happy New Year!

January 7, 2008 · Leave a Comment

Hello, I’m back! I am so lucky – The Master loves me enough to deal with his least favorite country in the world in order to make me happy. I just spent the most amazing new year in PARIS!  I’m still in recovery mode but I promise to get back on the ball so I  can give you something more than the Britney Gossip you’ve been force fed for the last week. 

Till then…

xoxo

E

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Life Coach Session ~ Clicking Life Away

January 7, 2008 · 3 Comments

By Elliot Kay
Life Coach

How many times have you sat back and thought, if I only I had done that? How many times have you gone to see a friend or family and suddenly they look bigger and have a story to tell? And the story is months old? Why is it we suddenly look back and think, wow, where has time gone?

It’s about choices we make, and for me recently nothing captures it better than the film Click by Adam Sandler. It would be great to have a remote to pause and vent our frustration in a “funny” way, or to skip a few days ahead, sadly I feel a lot of us are doing that already in many different ways.

It isn’t easy to fit everything in, however we make a choice to skip so many things, not just our families but seeing friends, and spending time with anyone that is close to our hearts. We might not have a physical remote to control, but we do have our inner remote, which no one can control; except us! Take a long look back and think, when is the last time you pressed pause to spend time with a loved one or a relative? Refused to forgive someone because of your own stubbornness? When is the last time you put work first and put everything else on pause? Notice the emphasis here is on you.

I think you know where this is going…as I always say, life will always be there but the people that we hold dear to our hearts might not. Then what? You may wish you could press rewind so you can go back an do things differently…that’s the difference between the film Click and real life, he got a second chance…we don’t always, unless we make one for ourselves!!! Don’t wait for tomorrow, now will do.

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Just ‘Cause! ~ The Bathtub Test

December 12, 2007 · Leave a Comment

THE BATHTUB TEST
 
It doesn’t hurt to take a hard look at yourself from time to time, and this should help get you started.

During a visit to the mental asylum, a visitor asked the Director what the criterion was which defined whether or not a patient should be institutionalised.

“Well,” said the Director, “we fill up a bathtub, then we offer a teaspoon, a teacup and a bucket to the patient and ask him or her to empty the bathtub.”

“Oh, I understand,” said the visitor.  “A normal person would use the bucket because it’s bigger than the spoon or the teacup.”

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“No.” said the Director, “A normal person would pull the plug.  Do you want a bed near the window?”
 
DID YOU PASS THE TEST, OR DO YOU WANT THE BED NEXT TO MINE?

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